Buck Angel is “a man with a pussy.”
I’ll admit my
interest in Buck Angel the porn star pretty much ended there (I like dick, OK?),
but several years later, when director Dan Hunt’s 2013 documentary MR.
ANGEL hit Prime, I decided to learn more about Buck Angel the man, for reasons
I’ll elaborate on later.
Like the Cirque
Noir trailer, the first few minutes of Mr. Angel are coy about what
makes its subject unique. Scenes of Buck in the shower, shot from the shoulders
up, touching up his bald pate with a razor are intercut with home movie footage
of Buck as a little girl, let us know he’s trans, and Buck lets a Berlin cab
driver (and audience) know that he’s in the sex industry, telling the driver
that he prefers Berlin’s openness with sexuality (“[The U.S. is] very scared of
naked people,” he laughs). It’s not until Buck arrives at his Berlin
destination, the Venus Show, where a life-size poster of him nude adorns the
wall of his booth, that the audience learns what made Buck unique among porn
performers of that time.
Buck Angel’s beauty regimen. |
At first, he seems
surprised by the poster or, rather, that event organizers went with such a
graphic image, but he’s happy with their choice as it confronts attendees at
the Venus Show with his exceptional anatomy. “With pants on I just look like a
dude.”
Buck Angel with his co-workers. |
Just another day at the Venus Show. |
It’s getting to
know the Buck Angel with his pants on that is the primary focus of the
documentary. Though there are many segments focusing on Buck Angel, porn
performer, Mr. Angel is not a porn documentary. Instead, it shows
audiences that while Buck may not have the genitals of a cis-gendered man, and
his job isn’t a typical 9-5 office gig, he is, basically, just a dude, albeit
one who must see a gynecologist.
Buck’s a pretty likable guy. Quick to laugh, thoughtful and, considering some of the shit he’s had to deal with, remarkably positive. I mean, these people might not like him but fuck them.
Bored now. |
“Just because I have a pussy does not make me not a man,” Buck says, later asserting, “I’m not an ‘it.’”
For the record, Buck says he decided against bottom surgery because penises created in the operating theater just aren’t up to snuff. Given that phalloplasty sounds like a grueling ordeal to go through only to wind up with dick that can’t even get hard without use of a prosthetic, it’s easy to see why he’s better off just using a strap-on.
Buck shows off his tattoos. |
Still, it’s not
easy for people to understand how someone can identify as one gender while having
the parts of another. I certainly didn’t, which is what led me to watch this
documentary initially. Unfortunately, I didn’t quite get the message my first
watch.
Learning I was the Asshole from a Man with a Pussy
I don’t come out
well in this story, but here goes. Way back in 2012, my husband and I were
having lunch with some friends. At the table was a friend who came out as trans
a year earlier. I’ll call him Frank. Frank was in town for the Southern Comfort Conference in Atlanta, and he
mentioned seeing Buck Angel, who was a featured guest at the conference that
year. This is when I decided to make what I thought was good point: “But Buck
Angel still has a vagina. Would ‘he’ even count as a trans man?”
Yes, I said that.
Aloud.
Buck Angel is poised and ready to blow narrow minds. |
It was a stupid comment. I know this now. It was uttered in ignorance, not malice. This probably doesn’t make it better, but I kind of meant it as a joke. Frank, however, didn’t take it that way. “Why should that even matter!?” he asked angrily, and a bit too loudly for my comfort. I, in turn, reacted like a Boomer comedian told his rape joke was offensive and tried to justify my wrong-headed observation (i.e., that unless a person got top and bottom surgery, they were merely transvestites), which only made Frank more indignant. I recall someone else at the table—not my husband, BTW—making a clumsy attempt to defend me, but all that did was draw fire until someone else mercifully changed the subject.
My ignorant comment
was a teachable moment. If society is grappling with the concept of nonbinary identities
now, they weren’t even acknowledged in 2012. We didn’t even know the word nonbinary
existed. Even within the LGBTQ+ community there was a reluctance
to embrace the “Ts.” Unfortunately, instead of explaining the dynamics
of gender identity, Frank chose to dress me down for being a transphobe. The
lesson I learned that day? Don’t talk to trans people.
I didn’t say much
for the remainder of that lunch, and I was the first to announce our departure (my husband had to leave with me; I was his ride). Months later, when there was another get-together
occasioned by Frank being in town, I declined to attend. In fact, a full year passed
before I agreed to be in the same room as Frank, and while he didn’t appear to
have any hard feelings—our previous interaction was never even brought up—I was
still wary, and chose my words carefully in his presence, if I spoke at all.
MTF performer Wendy Williams and FTM performer Buck Angel are about to fuck with viewers’ minds in Buck Fever. |
Except, that’s not
what Wendy said. Wendy herself hasn’t had bottom surgery. It wasn’t until I rewatched
the documentary for this review that I realized her shock had nothing to do
with Buck’s identity. She just hadn’t seen “a man with a pussy” before watching
one of Buck’s videos. Today there are entire websites
dedicated to FTM performers; they were still an anomaly in the early 2010s.
My repeat viewing
of Mr. Angel made me reassess that cringey lunch in 2012. I had to face
the fact that Frank might have been unfair, but he wasn’t wrong. I was the
asshole.
It would be nice to say that I’ve since reached out to Frank with my belated understanding, but it’s too late for such tidy closure. Frank died of a heart attack in 2018.
Transitioning from Porn to Activism
If I had trouble
wrapping my head around Buck’s gender identity, it was doubly so for his
family. “It’s easier for me to deal with the transgender side than it is the
porn side,” his sister Tracey says. “I almost feel it’s like you hit people
once with being transgender, now you smack them again because you’re in porn.”
Buck Angel and his then-wife Elayne on Tyra Banks’ show. |
His father Bill, whom Buck describes as a man’s man, had an especially hard time accepting Buck for
who he is. Though Buck appears to have a good relationship with his parents at
the time this documentary was shot, you can still see his father struggling to
accept his son. Bill’s a good sport when they watch Buck being interviewed on Tyra,
laughing when Buck tells Tyra Banks that he loves his vagina. But when Buck
complains about the interview being on an episode focused on “sexual
oddities,” Bill doesn’t understand the objection. “But you are…. ‘Oddity’
means you’re not with the norm.”
Selections from Buck’s 1980s modeling portfolio. |
Angel-in-progress. |
Buck’s mother Patty visits him during his recovery from a hysterectomy. |
“There are a lot of
people like me,” Buck explains to his father. “I consider myself very normal. …I
don’t want the world to go around thinking people like us aren’t normal.”
This is a hard sell
now, and it was a hard sell then. Here’s a sampling from Buck’s inbox:
- You are one mixed-up individual. You need help, and bad.
- Well, I can’t really be nasty to you because you’re a girl, but people like you should be put to death.
- I hope you die of AIDS, you freak of society. You’re so arrogant and disgusting you have to change your sex trying to play God. I swear if I ever cross paths with you, I will have a gun and it’s going in your face.
Buck, his future ex-wife and their dogs relax at their home in Mexico. |
The documentary itself serves as an extension of Buck Angel’s outreach. Buck may not be ordinary, but his day-to-day life appears perfectly normal, especially the scenes of him with his then-wife, body piercer Elayne, at their home in Mexico, where the couple moved after marrying in New Orleans. She seems wonderfully supportive (“That’s not a small cock, it’s a huge clit,” she helpfully explains to one middle-aged attendee at the Venus Show)—that is, until the cameras stopped rolling. A year after this documentary was released, Buck and Elayne divorced, very messily. Though she said in Mr. Angel that Buck was “the man of [her] dreams,” Elayne was suddenly a TERF in court, claiming their marriage wasn’t legal under Louisiana law because Buck never got bottom surgery, and therefore not a man, and not entitled to spousal support. The judge ruled against her.
Buck Angel, circa 2023. |
Buck also sells merch, like this “Tranpa” mug. |